Rockstars :-*

"My mom is nothing less than a wonder woman, she is the father when I go out of control, she is the best friend when I need a confidante and the support when I am weak."

Yes, I am a kid with a single mother. I do miss having my father around, but I am sure he must be proud of my mommy's job. And this one is for all the women striving to play the roles of the man and woman in the family.

Single mothers, this is either because god gets cruel and takes away her support or life gets harsh and she has to seperate with a divorce. Whatever the reason, the consequences is what defines her.

The part where these mothers are tested are when they have to smile to their kids and give them courage. Their tears, their loss and their fear is all locked up somewhere in some corner of their minds and soul. Now what next? The only thing they know is that they have to survive to see thier kids live. This is the beauty of every single mother who know how to live with courage.

Their strength is something that our society do not understand sometimes or neglect it totally. Single mothers and their kids are often looked at with a different perspective altogether. The times when they are thought vulnerable are difficult times when the Moms have to be the super heroes and fight against the world holding their integrity and keeping the kids away from the scars.

A family without a father is incomplete, but they know how to find happiness in the same vaccuum. This is taught by the single mother. She works to support the family, she nurtures the kids and when she is alone sleeping on the bed feeling the empty space next to her, she closes her eyes and puts herself in place again to survive the next day.

A father cannot handle kids alone, but a mother can sure be a rockstar here. So, for all the women who are single mothers for whatever reasons, a salute!

Cheers!!

What is with the Accent, Dude?

"And yes I am getting a little annoyed with that speech. Why do you want to bark like a bitch from London when you are in Shanivar Wada, Pune?"
Sal was pissed off because a girl just spoke to her with this accent which kind of sounded like she was struggling to get through. This girl (name not to be mentioned) is born and brought up in India. She was out of country for a few months, note only for a few months and she came back with this weird accent. I do not understand how can a few months transform the speech you have been learning for years altogether.
"Haha! Sal you are going to get a lot of these. I met this guy once, who tried to talk like
'Hey babe watsa, you lookin b-u-tifool'
His accent was totally made up and turning off",
Pia was staring at the girl clicking pictures of the fort and pretending to be mesmerized by the view she must have been seeing since birth.
Somehow people have started to have this thing in their mind that they could impress others with a foreign accent. I mean, seriously, they are not impressed and in reality they hardly get a thing you are trying to say. For people who are born and brought up abroad or are living there for quite a few years, the accent comes naturally. Why fake something you do not clearly possess?
"I know, I had this interview with an author. Not only did he have this 'good for nothing' attitude but he also spoke in this UK accent. I wish his books too had that good language", I totally agreed with Sal and Pia.
Right from a few celebreties to some normal kids next door, everybody is leaving the fancy 'Indo English' accent for some fake one. This is like trying to change yourself to fit in an invisible and cool group of wanna be's. Or maybe it is just some boring people like us who still love putting down 'yaar' in the end of every English Statement.
This blog post is solely fictitious.. there are no people in my life with any speech defects.. the ones mentioned do not relate to real life :-P
- Anvi Mehta

W-O-M-A-N-I-Y-A

Recently I read a quite an interesting post on Women in India. ‘Inspired’ by it, I decided to get a little feminine this week as it is the International Women’s Day.

Today all over the web there are articles, poems and columns which are stressing on sensitive issues like Women Safety, Women Health and Women Empowerment.  Keeping apart all the somber issues I am going to be a little generic at present.

Woman – is a fairly misunderstood term or you could say an unveiled mystery.  There is hardly any person who has understood a Woman anywhere on the planet.  In all these years, the ideas, aspirations and importance of a woman have evolved a lot. Women in India are also surfacing to change their image from a simple housewife to a smart and confidant working lady. This transformation of women has been a little complex than expected though.

There are certain misunderstandings and confusions in the minds of both men and women when it comes to their transformed personalities. Today, I am going to highlight them a little, because women might never be secure anymore, but they at least need others to know them better to live joyful and pleased.

To start with, well, I really feel pity on men who still think women are dumb. This is the biggest illusion you have created for yourselves. Definitely, we women are not interested in Football, Cars and Sports as you men are not aware of Pedicures, Facials and Child Care.  And most of the women like pretending dumb because your tinny tiny ego remains satisfied in this way. Answer me, would you date a girl who is way smarter than your balls...Oops sorry brains?

This just doesn’t end here. The Indian society is making women go crazy with their altering choice in ladies. One fine day, every single girl wants to have the ‘zero figure’. Till the time she achieves that, the trend of curves is back! In this case, I blame the women as well. Why do we want to do something the actresses go for? They are paid for having sexy bodies and we pay for having sexy bodies. Being fit is more important, irrespective of the curves or zero figures.

If it was not just the weight and figure, skin exposure is also become cliché. Even for women who still believe showing skin would make you popular, you need to grow up. I guess soon men are not even going to be awed of women in shorts and skirts. So, for all the women who are reading this, hide it and let people wonder what is hidden from their view! Curiosity makes it spicy!

Even after all the hurdles and differences, love makes a man and woman bind together. But, gone were the days when ‘Meeting my Prince to happily live after’ was the alone ambition in a woman’s life. Now, there is career, success, fame and all that crap which has made the prince a pauper. Choosing between Love and career is a big controversy. This hullabaloo has resulted in chaotic relationships, frustrated single women and bad households. We as women must make choices soon, and never regret them – be it being a housewife, a working woman or both. And for the men and society, respect the lady for whoever she wishes to be!

When I walked out of my house today, I saw a woman carrying cement buckets in one hand and a kid on the other walking down the road. She was probably working at the nearby construction site. I went to my regular Breakfast place. It was run by a Single Mother who had employed 7-8 poor women to help her and in return she gave them enough money to survive the month and give good education to their kids. There was another lady customer there who had come on a Bullet; she carried the bike off so well, she looked incredible on it. The Bullet is one bike that half the men cannot pull off well. I talked to her about the bike and she was good enough to give me a ride to my office. Near the office there was a woman fighting with the vegetable vendor, struggling to get an onion extra for free. Not even half a day, and there were implausible inspiring women right in front of me.

The reason why I mentioned all this is that in these past few months, I have been reading a Rape or Women Assault news every day. Rape is a very sensitive issue, but it is depressing and dispiriting as well. These news create fear among women and cut their wings off. Yes, women are not safe but why suffocate them with it? There should be media awareness, but why only the bad side of it? Why cannot we support women who are real life motivators? Just look around and there will be plenty of them. Support them, learn from them and fight against the bad. Set the example you want to be.

We as women also need to stop for a moment and think of what we want rather than what people around us are expecting from us. This Women’s Day, eat junk food, wear a pajama and roam all over the town, shout all the indecent words you know, let people know you are done being underrated and kick the ones who want cannot possible understand it. You deserve better!

Cheers to all those lovely ladies!!

- Anvi Mehta

Another love story..!!

"I kinna like you."
"So do I"
"It is hardly been a week we have met."
"But 3 months we have talked over Facebook and Mesaging."
"Next what?"
And Pankhi was thinking of what to do next, untill she felt Aariv's lips on hers. He softly brushed his lips enough to taste her strawberry flavored lip balm. She was seated on her Activa and he stood next to her. The road was empty and dark with just a few flickering street lights around. She had goosebumps all over her because of the touch they had just shared. They kissed again, this time it was more than tasting the lip balm though. Till she left there were a lot of good bye kisses shared by the two.
In the night, they were texting again,
"So, this means I am your girlfriend na?"
"LOL, Are you seriously asking me this? We just kissed like maniacs!"
"Haha, you never asked me out properly so was doubtful."
"Good Night"
Pankhi was still confused if she was actually dating this guy. They had accidentally met on Facebook. She had accepted his Friend's request because his name was appealing. He was from the same city but Pankhi's junior. From talking of ex relationships to cricket to education system of India, they had covered it all. Day and night they were on Facebook.
"So, I will not be online from tomorrow."
"Hmm.. you may text me den!"
"Aariv, I would love to, if I had your number."
"Never realized that but you may have it."
"Being a girl, I have to do everything. Could not you ask me for my number directly?"
This is how they exchanged numbers. The texting had become contagious even before they realized it.
"Your friend in that picture is quite cute."
"You wanna meet him? I will do the neccessities."
"Sure. Give him my number"
"You serious?"
"As if you will do that and he would contact me!"
"Actually come near our cricket grounds tomorrow evening to meet us."
"You never called me to meet you though we talked for over 3 months"
"I will also be here na"
"Okay! FYI I am not into that guy."
"Haha! He might just be into you then"
That evening they met, and after that meet there was no stopping. Though Aariv wanted to be the cupid between Pankhi and his cute friend, his arrow hit him instead. In a week they went from stupid buddies to insane lovers.
Their love had blossomed without any rose, proposal, coffee or expensive gifts. All they had were the wet but cute kisses..
Infact all they would have even after 2 years would be love filled kisses..!! They might just be one couple you would read a lot in the coming days..