"Family is more important, honey"

Valentine's is finally over. The whole week must have passed in romance with all the couples. But the end of this horrendous week was such a relief for many single men. There are single women as well, but 80% of them tend to have at least some guy hitting on her or trying to woo her. It is the men who have to suffer.

A lot of male friends text me on Valentine's saying, "I miss her today a lot, dude." Apparently, they all had broken up with their respective partner quite recently. The sad part in the break up was that they were in a relation from a span of 2-5 years. The shocking part was almost all the guys were ditched; the reason for the break up was also similar,

"I do not think we have a future. My family will not accept us."

or,

"I cannot go against my family. Love marriages are strictly prohibited."

Indian women perhaps have a problem with understanding facts and feelings. I mean, hello missy, if you knew there is no love business allowed in your family, why even go for a relationship. Our mentality as women is so confused, we criticize one night stands but we do not mind having an affair though in the end there is no intention of marriage or commitment.

Trends are changing drastically. Women can move on after a break up very easily. Yes, they do feel bad and are hurt as well. But, they have a male best friend supporting them or some other ‘just friend’ trying to cheer up. Some years back there were men traumatizing women, the females used to cry in some bedroom corner shouting,

"He used me.. I was just an object for pleasure."

Very soon the guys are going to say that they were being used for pleasure, I guess there are some saying this already.

We women should understand the fact if somebody is getting involved you must get yourself clear. If you think he is not the one for your family, stop being a freaking hypocrite and either leave him or your family instantly. Your family or situations are not going to change after years of waiting. It is you who have to change things.

And men, the simple and innocent women you look for end up either ditching you, betraying you or making you nothing but a pet. You must think with your brains before getting involved rather than your.. hope you got it.

Life is short people..why cry over relations that certainly cannot be mended..flirt around..fall in love again and again..more than once is totally agreed these days!!

It's the DATE each day..!!

"I have been asked this question by tons of men,

"What is with women and dates?" 

I used to give them a confused look after listening to their question. And my expressions would get more intense with the further explanation they would give me,

"I mean come on, what is so special in the date we kissed first time, the date we met first time, the date we had sex first time and the date just keep going on. There are days and dates created before the 'already traumatizing' Valentine's Day as well. My wife asked me to propose her today as it was 'Propose Day', wasn't making her my wife enough of a proposal?"

I listen to these men with all my attention and patience, then I answer them with this simple little question,

"What is with men and orgasms?"

Though my comparison sounds vague and outright, it shuts up men instantly.

Women are obsessed with dates and special events in their life, but that is just to make their life more meaningful. They love to enhance the importance of any occasion and celebrate it with passion. Maybe, that is why women care more of the feelings when making out and less of the orgasm.

On the other hand, men need a purpose for everything that they do. They need a defined result or application or output. So if they are making out, it is useless without the whole satisfaction feeling. Similarly, they find these 'no good' dates and days as an utter waste of time, energy and money of course.

A brain and heart question arises here. Women deal with heart filled emotions and men deal with the practically moving brains. But, that does not mean men always underestimate or laugh on women. If she is asking you to remember a date for her, expecting you to make her feel special and demand you to pamper her, you have to work on her needs as she does on yours. Finally, if you stop portraying the love and pamper you have for her as a favor to her, she will stop treating sex as a favor to you.

- Anvi Mehta

e's d � s w `F 0�C ife asked me to propose her today as it was 'Propose Day'. Wasn't making her my wife enough of a proposal?"

I listen to these men with all my attention and patience, then I answer them with this simple little question,
"What is with men and orgasms?"
Though my comparison sounds vague and outright, it shuts up men instantly.
Women are obssesed with dates and special events in their life, but that is just to make thier life more meaningful. They love to enhance the importance of any occassion and celebrate it with passion. Maybe, that is why women care more of the feelings when making out and less of the orgasm.
On the other hand, men need a purpose for everything that they do. They need a defined result or application or output. So if they are making out, it is useless without the whole satisfaction feeling. Similarly, they find these 'no good' dates and days as an utter waste of time, energy and money ofcourse.
A brain and heart question arises here. Women deal with heart filled emotions and men deal with the practically moving brains. But, that does not mean men always underestimate or laugh on women. If she is asking you to remember a date for her, expecting you to make her feel special and demand you to pamper her, you have to work on her needs as she does on yours. Cos finally, if you stop portraying the love and pamper you have for her as a favor to her, she will stop treating sex as a favor to you."
- Anvi Mehta