"I have been asked this question by tons of men,
"What is with women and dates?"
I used to give them a confused look after listening to their question. And my expressions would get more intense with the further explanation they would give me,
"I mean come on, what is so special in the date we kissed first time, the date we met first time, the date we had sex first time and the date just keep going on. There are days and dates created before the 'already traumatizing' Valentine's Day as well. My wife asked me to propose her today as it was 'Propose Day', wasn't making her my wife enough of a proposal?"
I listen to these men with all my attention and patience, then I
answer them with this simple little question,
"What is with men and orgasms?"
Though my comparison sounds vague and outright, it shuts up men
instantly.
Women are obsessed with dates and special events in their life,
but that is just to make their life more meaningful. They love to enhance the
importance of any occasion and celebrate it with passion. Maybe, that is why
women care more of the feelings when making out and less of the orgasm.
On the other hand, men need a purpose for everything that they do.
They need a defined result or application or output. So if they are making out,
it is useless without the whole satisfaction feeling. Similarly, they find
these 'no good' dates and days as an utter waste of time, energy and money of course.
A brain and heart question arises here. Women deal with heart
filled emotions and men deal with the practically moving brains. But, that does
not mean men always underestimate or laugh on women. If she is asking you to
remember a date for her, expecting you to make her feel special and demand you
to pamper her, you have to work on her needs as she does on yours. Finally, if
you stop portraying the love and pamper you have for her as a favor to her, she
will stop treating sex as a favor to you.
- Anvi Mehta
I listen to these men with all my attention and patience, then I answer them with this simple little question,
"What is with men and orgasms?"
Though my comparison sounds vague and outright, it shuts up men instantly.
Women are obssesed with dates and special events in their life, but that is just to make thier life more meaningful. They love to enhance the importance of any occassion and celebrate it with passion. Maybe, that is why women care more of the feelings when making out and less of the orgasm.
On the other hand, men need a purpose for everything that they do. They need a defined result or application or output. So if they are making out, it is useless without the whole satisfaction feeling. Similarly, they find these 'no good' dates and days as an utter waste of time, energy and money ofcourse.
A brain and heart question arises here. Women deal with heart filled emotions and men deal with the practically moving brains. But, that does not mean men always underestimate or laugh on women. If she is asking you to remember a date for her, expecting you to make her feel special and demand you to pamper her, you have to work on her needs as she does on yours. Cos finally, if you stop portraying the love and pamper you have for her as a favor to her, she will stop treating sex as a favor to you."
- Anvi Mehta
I believe in equality during intimacy and sex. We need to move away of man controlling the shots and I wouldn't mind the woman being on top:) Love the post. Great job, Anvi:)
ReplyDeleteHaHa..!!! True dat Vishal.. I guess you might be taking your tons of anniversaries seriously as well..!!
DeleteUnderstanding is the key..
ReplyDeleteNice article..:)
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Thankyou..!!
DeleteHey Anvi,
ReplyDeleteLoved your simple little question ;)
Mind tickling post