W-O-M-A-N-I-Y-A

Recently I read a quite an interesting post on Women in India. ‘Inspired’ by it, I decided to get a little feminine this week as it is the International Women’s Day.

Today all over the web there are articles, poems and columns which are stressing on sensitive issues like Women Safety, Women Health and Women Empowerment.  Keeping apart all the somber issues I am going to be a little generic at present.

Woman – is a fairly misunderstood term or you could say an unveiled mystery.  There is hardly any person who has understood a Woman anywhere on the planet.  In all these years, the ideas, aspirations and importance of a woman have evolved a lot. Women in India are also surfacing to change their image from a simple housewife to a smart and confidant working lady. This transformation of women has been a little complex than expected though.

There are certain misunderstandings and confusions in the minds of both men and women when it comes to their transformed personalities. Today, I am going to highlight them a little, because women might never be secure anymore, but they at least need others to know them better to live joyful and pleased.

To start with, well, I really feel pity on men who still think women are dumb. This is the biggest illusion you have created for yourselves. Definitely, we women are not interested in Football, Cars and Sports as you men are not aware of Pedicures, Facials and Child Care.  And most of the women like pretending dumb because your tinny tiny ego remains satisfied in this way. Answer me, would you date a girl who is way smarter than your balls...Oops sorry brains?

This just doesn’t end here. The Indian society is making women go crazy with their altering choice in ladies. One fine day, every single girl wants to have the ‘zero figure’. Till the time she achieves that, the trend of curves is back! In this case, I blame the women as well. Why do we want to do something the actresses go for? They are paid for having sexy bodies and we pay for having sexy bodies. Being fit is more important, irrespective of the curves or zero figures.

If it was not just the weight and figure, skin exposure is also become cliché. Even for women who still believe showing skin would make you popular, you need to grow up. I guess soon men are not even going to be awed of women in shorts and skirts. So, for all the women who are reading this, hide it and let people wonder what is hidden from their view! Curiosity makes it spicy!

Even after all the hurdles and differences, love makes a man and woman bind together. But, gone were the days when ‘Meeting my Prince to happily live after’ was the alone ambition in a woman’s life. Now, there is career, success, fame and all that crap which has made the prince a pauper. Choosing between Love and career is a big controversy. This hullabaloo has resulted in chaotic relationships, frustrated single women and bad households. We as women must make choices soon, and never regret them – be it being a housewife, a working woman or both. And for the men and society, respect the lady for whoever she wishes to be!

When I walked out of my house today, I saw a woman carrying cement buckets in one hand and a kid on the other walking down the road. She was probably working at the nearby construction site. I went to my regular Breakfast place. It was run by a Single Mother who had employed 7-8 poor women to help her and in return she gave them enough money to survive the month and give good education to their kids. There was another lady customer there who had come on a Bullet; she carried the bike off so well, she looked incredible on it. The Bullet is one bike that half the men cannot pull off well. I talked to her about the bike and she was good enough to give me a ride to my office. Near the office there was a woman fighting with the vegetable vendor, struggling to get an onion extra for free. Not even half a day, and there were implausible inspiring women right in front of me.

The reason why I mentioned all this is that in these past few months, I have been reading a Rape or Women Assault news every day. Rape is a very sensitive issue, but it is depressing and dispiriting as well. These news create fear among women and cut their wings off. Yes, women are not safe but why suffocate them with it? There should be media awareness, but why only the bad side of it? Why cannot we support women who are real life motivators? Just look around and there will be plenty of them. Support them, learn from them and fight against the bad. Set the example you want to be.

We as women also need to stop for a moment and think of what we want rather than what people around us are expecting from us. This Women’s Day, eat junk food, wear a pajama and roam all over the town, shout all the indecent words you know, let people know you are done being underrated and kick the ones who want cannot possible understand it. You deserve better!

Cheers to all those lovely ladies!!

- Anvi Mehta