The mid twenty life crisis!

Mid twenty life crisis - it is not just a term used to exaggerate something, it actually exists. Be it professional or personal,life is always on a roller coaster ride with a lot of ups and downs. If one lot is confused on what to make a career in, the other lot is clueless of why they chose a particular profile - especially engineers.

Already every relative alive on the planet has their eyes on you and your salary package, marriage proposals start rolling in and stress just kills every inch of life you have inside you. To top it all, the mid twenty crisis just gets torturous when your boyfriend/girlfriend bails on you,breaks up for the most erratic reasons ever.

You may get break up reasons from a range of 'I think we need to explore other options, we got committed just too young. I think we should be just friends' or 'You are a nice person, but I think I need to concentrate on my career and I need space' or 'My parents are looking for a groom/bride and you are not my caste, they will not accept us - I will miss you but I cannot simply betray my parents' - this being one of the most classic reasons cited by majority of Indians.

So what happens once you are somewhere between 23 to 25 and a douchebag just leaves you!
 You could become a devdas using alcohol as a means to forget the relationship yet you keep on talking about it to every person you meet. Some unfortunate tend to get a little psychotic like Salman Khan in tere naam, (This species is truly dangerous, you really do not want to be here). Right from suicidal attempts to emotional episodes to getting violent with your ex - you do it all.

A very rare outcome from a bad breakup in the 20's is the wild child one. Join this league and you are like the Dipika Padukone of Cocktail, party, flirt around and do everything your partner had stopped you to. 'True love is a sham,lust is what I believe in' becomes your motto in life.

So whatever league you join, obviously there are more than these three, you change. A teenage break up is hard, but it still gives you hope that your prince in shining armour is waiting for you in college. A break up is difficult after you know life is not the high school musical or ishq vishq and you have to struggle to earn for everything (unless ofcourse you are of the Ambani type of clan, and your biggest problem in life is that you have an Audi while your friend owns a Porche). You do not want to start over again, you do not trust people, you think you are going to be alone all your damn life and your work becomes your love, your diversion and your source to survival.
It gets worse when you start getting marital pressures from family. It is like every damn person in your age group is getting married and you are far from the thought of even going out on a date. It pinches when you receive an invitation from a couple who you thought would not even last a year, but hey they are tying the bloody knot.

A lot of other bad things are on the list, right from seeing your ex move on in a week and start dating while you are crazy single to being the alone one with friends in a group full of two's. It is way more difficult than you imagine, you feel lost and wasted. 


Yes, it is a scar for a lifetime, and a lesson learnt. But at the end of everything, there is going to be one day when you would thank your ex for the break up, cos it would have transformed you into a person so much better and stronger and attractive (post break up glows are charming as ever). I do not know if you would find true love or not, but losing hopes of finding one will definitely increase your chances on it. As they say, 'Do not search and crave for love, it will come to you when you expect it the least'. Till then, there are far more important things in life, talk to your family everyday, meet your friends, fulfil all your crazy dreams and fall in love with yourself. Be the Kangana of Queen, rule the hearts around you!



PS - This was a self healing blog, sometimes you need to advice yourself and pull yourself out of the shit you are stuck in waiting to be rescued!!